I haven’t shared my IF ONLY FOR ONE’s in awhile and two days in a row BAM! This story took Place Thursday May 7th 2015. I have to start with a little foreshadowing. I was getting ready for the day and I decided to wear a new top I purchased a few weeks ago. It is made of thin tshirt like material so poking sticking a pin through it would surely leave an obivous the next time I wear it. Out of habit I went to stick my lapel GRAY RIBBON and paused thinking well its a new shirt and hmmm what else could I wear for my gray today, my bracelet but you can’t see the ribbon . STOP! I said “SELF” its a shirt not a BRAIN TUMOR. It’s a tiny hole in a t-shirt replaceable not a massive slice in my head. No second guessing now and WHALA I put the ribbon in my shirt. ( seems trivial but stick with me)
Now to take on my day. I ran a bunch of errands and on my way home I stopped at a FEDX print store so I could make some copies of the GRAY MATTERS FOUNDATION poster “Wear your Gray in May” . I have my flash drive in hand and ask for help. A nice man named Bill walks me over to self serve and this is where it happened. We chatted for a bit with small talk. He has a PA accent. My husband is from PA so that opened the door for conversation. I ask what brought him to AZ and that is all it took. Next he walks me through the steps to get the file opened and on the screen. Once the first copy was made the BT conversation happens. I ask did he know it was BRAIN TUMOR AWARENESS month. NO. He reads the poster and it opened the door for even more questions. I share how I started this foundation and what I do and my passion for the cause because having experienced it first hand I KNOW! what it feels like to need that encouragement and support. Then it happens ……He gives me that look and Asks YOU???? Yes me I reply. He went on to say how lucky, blessed I am. And then the look that breaks my heart. That tone I have come to know way to often, that moment when I sense he knows more about brain tumors than he cared to EVER! He gives a BIG SIGH Really? and with the heart broken look went on to share because—-”my brother in law was diagnosed and died in less than a year” Before another word was said those horrible three letters entered our conversation. GBM ( in my mind DANG IT! ) I am so sorry Bill. He shared how tough it was to watch but how wonderful his sister in law handled it. We chatted a little bit more and I shared more about the special details of May and wearing gray. Oh my goodness it occurred to me Bill is my one today. I shared my business card with Bill and apologized I didn’t have a brochure but please keep take a poster. I offered for him to give his sister the card. I shared if she was open to it I would be happy to reach out to her . WAIT I was thinking & It hit me. I am wearing my special ribbon the one that is going to leave a small reminder . I only have one of these ribbons but that’s ok they need it. Today he & his sister are my ” if only for one”. I proceed to remove my GRAY RIBBON so I can gift it. I asked Bill ” would your sister wear a ribbon if she had one?” OF COURSE. Well give this to her. It’s a special ribbon because it has a little angel on it and it represents those who fought a good fight. I always tell my buddies I am a voice for those who no longer have one. She can wear this and be reminded he is not forgotten and someone is a voice for him in this cause. He will not be forgotten EVER. Bill said he just couldn’t take the ribbon. I shared with Bill I knew this was for his family because I almost didn’t wear it today and now he shares his story. It for sure is meant to be his sisters ribbon. You and your family are “my one” and I was supposed to give this ribbon to you. You just never know the reasons but follow those little nudges.
Today April 7th 2015 is my Eight year SURGERAVERSARY. 8 years since my last surgery which was surgery number 5. It’s crazy to read and even more strange to type. I have been cut on FIVE TIMES. Although it is not defined in the Webster’s Dictionary anyone who has survived a major surgery understands the annual reason to celebrate. I try never to take for granted that I am always an MRI away from hearing those words the BT has returned- but it does no good to worry so I live life and share the same with others. I try not to stress & always focus on being blessed. Thank you for being part of my journey.
I would like to thank all of my brain buddies who were able to attend my SWEET 16 Celebration #GMFsweet16. It was an amazing celebration and the turnout was beyond INCREDIBLE. Some extra special moments : one was when my high school journalism teacher surprised me. She immediately rushed over to the party after flying in from out of state to be sure she didn’t as she said “miss the important celebration”. I had no idea she would be attending and it was only when this person snuck up behind me and put their hands over my eyes and I turned around to look….it was MARY BETH aka MB or Mrs Reed, my teacher now friend. My neurosurgeon Carrie Walters stopped by to share her love and she is in the photo’s. So many attended. I’m told it was over 200 and forgive me if I don’t mention you personally because everyone is equally important. Thank you to Damian Hartze for hosting our event at his restaurant The DIRTY PELICAN. He is a high school alumni who graciously helped us raise money and celebrate. Many of my high school alumni who have supported me on my journey were there. It’s crazy and so heart breaking after supporting me on my journey all these years now some of their family members have been touched by this wretched disease. One thing is for sure we stick together and walk the walk making the journey a little easier to travel. I can count on them and they can count on me for sure. My husbands softball team mates and their families attended. This disease does not discriminate, not to long ago one of the teammates who had been supporting us on our journey was diagnosed and died. If you take a peak at the photo album the team mates put together a basket in his memory it is the RAIDER basket . My sister and her boyfriend came in from out of state. My daughter even attended which really made me happy. Two of my cousins were there and they got to say hello and thank you to the surgeon who most of you know was the same Doctor who operated on our GMA in 1992. My cousin hadn’t seen her since then. Always there for me through thick and thin and through the years MY dear friend Brigitta who has known me since I was 14. She has been an amazing force behind why I am here today. I can always count on her and her moral support. Many! of my brain buddies attended and submitted baskets in honor or in memory of their loved one. One of my brain buddies who was a HUGE! supporter of gray matters foundation & was a devoted BRAIN BUDDIE. She earned her wings only a few days earlier but her husband Scott Lavery their family & their friends attended. I still believe she attended in spirit FRIENDS TO THE END Cindy LOU! We truly are about #supportnotstatistics . Thank you to my board members who helped Sue Swift and Greta your help with the ticket sales and set up was appreciated. Thank you Carrie Treadwell having you there to celebrate with your daughter meant a lot thank you for attending. Flo and Paul Jones as always you are faithful to show up at “every” event we have we appreciate your love and faithfulness. My best friend SHELLIE WELLIE who made a gift basket in my honor and shared our personal journey through the years. Awww and Stefan Moore founder of CRT who opened his heart and shared the story of the loss of his daughter. He wrote a letter that shared the loss but described and shared the beauty of the life she lived. Scott and Becky who represented the Snyder family. Thank you for the picnic basket and all the extra goodies you brought on behalf of your family in honor of your father. Awww and my beloved Mr. Sanders although no longer here on earth he was represented when his daughter MY FRIEND Janice and her husband Tim Paul not just attended but also donated several baskets to help raise money for my cause. ( not in attendance but a force behind preparing the baskets and always helping are Mr. Sanders grand children also Chris and Sophie) There were countless Brain buddie families who’s attended . Many of the families said they wanted to show to support me because I had touched them by helping their loved one who has since died. They wanted to show and share their love and say thanks. It was amazing! Even our favorite MRI tech Carl showed to celebrate. It was awesome because those of us still getting our scans at Stjoes hospital were excited to see him. It gave us a platform to give him the recognition he deserves. I had friends from my banking days attend. There are a few of the BANKING BUDDIES who have stayed close to me through the years. Jules aka Julie Cooper and her husband attended. Sandra K attended. There is a special story about Sandra K , she was the coworker who took the phone from my hand to speak with the doctor that called me to tell me while I was sitting at work I HAD A BRAIN TUMOR. She helped me take in the news that life changing day. I was so happy to publicly be able to thank her for what she did for me. Since being diagnosed myself 2 others at the bank from my office have been diagnosed with brain tumors. Greg now a survivor and his wife Michelle attended . Scott the other banking buddie BT survivor was not able to make it but supported GMF with a contribution towards that event and has supported us GREATLY over the years and continues to do so. Red Balloon at www.redballooninc.com attended and without them and the social media support and education we would not have been so successful. I can’t say it enough how much they have helped in our success. I can’t forget to mention the amazing guitar donation from @CARRIE UNDERWOOD. The winner of the guitar went to a brain buddie who lost her best friend to the tumor. I happened to have been with the friend when she took her final breath so this connection was even more special. She wrote on the ticket her friends name with a message this is for you AMY who knew that would become the winning ticket. Thank you to my mom and dad ( & step mom )who attended. It’s not often they get to attend so having them show was nice.
I saved the best for last My Husband. He was and is always so kind and supportive towards my passion and mission for THE GRAY MATTERS FOUNDATION. He helped set up and plan the NIGHT OF EVENT. He made the raffle fun and made so many laugh. He has a tough job because when everything is taking place he always makes sure I am ok and not pushing it. The evening would not have been as wonderful as it was if it were not for him helping me stay organized and pulled together. ( I know its hard to believe but it takes a lot to keep my schedule on track and he is for sure a big portion of why I am successful. He is my TOUR MANAGER LOLZ ) It’s all about TEAM WORK! that’s for sure. It was a great night. I could go on and on. There is one thing about life with the sweet always comes a little bitter. Since the party 2 near and dear to my heart have died. It reminds me I must keep doing what I do. People need to know they are not alone. Thank you for being part of the beauty in my life . Lot’s of Love your Brain Buddie, Lanette
It has been said ” YOU LIVE AS LONG AS YOU ARE REMEMBERED” -a Russian Proverb
I have been thinking about my New Years blog. What to do? How to start off the New Year and not write about the typical topics -Cleaning out the clutter-New Years Resolutions or the NEW diet. I figured we can always talk fresh starts, so I chose to stick with a topic that is true to me “CREATING MEMORIES” , being remembered.
I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t take a light hearted fun approach to my topic. The typical way to document or help others remember you is answering the basics Q & A style. 1) date of birth 2) where were you born blah blah boring. Ok boring is harsh but that would be ordinary, same old stuff. I am anything but ORDINARY.
I thought for January we could start something fun. My hope is of course that you will participate. The project will require some written participation ( There is something about the written word.)
The idea is GMF will post fun questions for you to create memory making moments, a “TO BE REMEMBERED” , did you know? book. This is meant to be a fun project not a boring HAVE TO. We are looking forward to interaction on the fan page. Everything we ask you to answer is for your keepsake. If you want to share that’s up to you. We hope this will help you create a fun #memorymakingmoment.
YOU WILL NEED:
a note book/journal Call it what you like. You need something to write the questions and answers on. Be sure to number each question and write it along with the answer.
Here is the plan,
We are going to give you a question a week on MONDAY. We just want you to be sure to write it in the book and answer it. You can ask other friends and family members to participate it will be a fun way to have written #memorymakingmoments it’s our #didyouknowMondays.
We may post extra questions throughout the week add those if you want.
If you have questions you want us to share send privately and we will post to the group or You are also welcome to post the question in the comments .
Life changes everyday let’s LIVE and be remembered. (Our questions are to just get you writing)
* BACK ROUND TO THE IDEA.
A few years back probably 15 I gave my G-ma and my PAP PAP books about sharing memories. The books were a question a day books “tell me your memories”. Well my PAP PAP finished the book as soon as he got it so in 1 year. It is my treasure. (he died from Alzheimer’s. 4 years ago) What is so awesome about the book is it is in his hand writing. I learned so much about him some I knew but a lot I didn’t. What a gift a little book with some simple questions but to see his handwriting forever. I learned His mom my great grandma was a candy maker. ( PROOF I WAS DOOMED to HAVE THESE HIPS lol) & double whammy because my dad’s mom My GMA was a donut maker BOTH SIDES OMG born to be a sugar addict it was in my blood for sure LOL.
Anyhow I gave the similar book to my grandma his wife ( She’s 91 I over see her care now). She took a little longer 12 years later I got it back. It’s wonderful to read and I am so glad I have it but I must say the fun questions I ask her out load now that she is 91 is even more fun. For example I learned my grandma at 89 had never had a pedicure or manicure or GIRLS GET THIS she never had a bubble bath. Well as you could guess YEP this crazy NON ORDINARY grand daughter helped give her 89 year old gma her first BB.
SO many other questions I ask that I am sure many of you would crack up if you knew. It’s the answers that would have you ROFL. I will save for another blog.
Reality check : (
Having my dad’s mom died young 62 and the family was in great turmoil over it. No time for gathering anything that wasn’t already written. My only memories are what is in my head. I have maybe two photos and one piece of paper with her handwriting I CHERISH IT! Reflecting on this , I chose to use this situation as a way to make my pain not be in vain. It was the nudge to share what’s important being remembered.
After working on this post I did find links to some memoir books. I will post links to where you can buy the books and get the basic need to knows answered. They have them for MOMS, DADS, G-PA, G-Ma, & I encourage you to get them. Great gifts. You will be glad you did. I completed one for my kids shortly after I was diagnosed so my kids have one from me. Don’t wait for an illness. Do it just because. Please if your loved one can’t write ask them the questions write their answer. Brain Buddies life is fragile we know that. We will all be remembered, the question is HOW?
Let’s have some fun #MEMORYmakingMOMENTS #DIDYOUKNOWMONDAYS
In November, Lanette had the opportunity to attend the 19th Annual Scientific Meeting and Education Day of the Society for Neuro-Oncology presented by the Society for Neuro-Oncology. During the event, she was able to witness the unveiling of some exciting news! For the first time, it was announced that doctors have discovered a new treatment plan for patients with glioblastomas.
Doctors have created a device that glioblastoma patients can wear on their heads. Patients place the cap on their scalp and wear it constantly. The device provides low intensity electrical fields that stop tumor cells from dividing. Patients who received the treatment lived three months longer on average! Although this is not a cure, that is an amazing step forward in providing patients with more time with their loved ones. After the success of the treatment for glioblastoma patients, doctors are considering other applications for the device.
Below are pictures from the conference provided by Chris Tee from the International Brain Tumor Alliance. The New York Times published an article on the new treatment, click here for the full article. Have questions? Need support? Contact Lanette at email@example.com or 623-205-6446.
Here is Lanette’s take on the exciting weekend!
“My trip to Miami was action packed. Always nice to see those I know and it was great to catch up. Funny when you have to fly to another state to catch up with those that live in the same state. I met up with my good friend and BESTIE BRAIN BUDDIE Sheryl Shetsky President of Florida Brain Tumor Association aka “BRAIN TUMOR DIVA”. We used this opportunity to connect with the medical community and put a face to our organization. Our goals were to share what we do in the brain tumor community with those we didn’t know( educate them of our mission statements which are very different) #2 remind those who do know us that we are still ALIVE “SURVIVING” and remind them we are here to support any of their patients and families. Of course Sheryl’s FBTA raises money for research so her conversations were a little different but we both did what we do best. A big part of attending events like these is to learn lot’s so we can stay ahead of the tumor. What that means is: NEVER CHASE YOUR TUMOR!!!!
Sheryl taught me in one of the first conferences I attended stay ahead of your diagnosis. Never wait for the reoccurrence to start survival search. Stay ahead of it know what’s out there. What are the new and up and coming treatments-technology. What docs are doing what. Well we followed her rule and did just that. We attended the education day and even participated in some lunch break out sessions. Of course this is a doctor and researcher event so some of it was over my head FOR SURE! Over all good things are happening in the world of brain tumors A LOT with GBM’s. The most moving breakout session for me was Neuro Oncology Caregiving. What Do We know and Where Should We Go? Obviously if you know anything about GMF you know this is my heart.
This year’s attendance at SNO I met and established what I am hopeful will be some long lasting friendships. We attended the welcome reception where we had the chance to catch up with Sheryl’s good friend, board member and moderator for FBTA conferences Dr. Steven Brem and his wife , we also met with Arizona’s very own Michael E Berens from TGEN and his wife. I even shared photo’s on our fan page of some of the researchers who think BRAIN TUMORS STINK! Lastly and a worth mentioning “IF ONLY FOR ONE” (I had so many but this is the best ) The Gala was on Saturday and over 300 attended. It was held at the Perez Art Museum it was TOP NOTCH! We could sit where we choose it was a nice outdoor event moonlight just beautiful. The table is a ten top. We are chatting with several of the people at our table and one of the people at the table is the President and CEO of a company that develops oncology drugs. The IF ONLY FOR ONE PART. So we are talking about longevity and how Sheryl is 25 years out with a brain stem glioma and me with Grade 3 Aniplastic Oligo. We talk about GBM buddies and of course I honored my beloved sweet friend david m bailey. This man lives in the same small town david lived in. He starts to tell us how when they invested in this “brain” treatment people started talking about a young man who had lived with a brain tumor yadda yadda. Well Ta DA, I honored my promise. I was able to share the legacy of my sweet friend. I put a face to the young man who was the man who shared hope through word, song. Funny how these things work. I attended my first SNO conference when I managed David’s tours, and would only see him at FBTA conferences. I think our one was not seen but was still close at heart. We had a great weekend.”
Happy November! Everyone thinks of Thanksgiving at this time of year. What do you have to be thankful for? Research has shown that being thankful can improve your overall health – physically, mentally and emotionally, including better sleep patterns, and even heart benefits. Research has also found that another benefit of regularly feeling thankful or grateful is a strengthened immune system. So keep those thankful thoughts flowing! Some days that feels harder than others, so Gray Matters is hosting a challenge to get you in the habit of feeling thankful this month.
You may have noticed recently that we’re posting simple and fun exercises on our Facebook page. The November Thankfulness Challenge started on Monday with a challenge to post a picture of something you are thankful for. Keep a look out for the challenges each week on our Facebook page. Let me know how you’re doing with each exercise, I’d love to hear how my Brain Buddies are feeling after taking each action! Here is the full list of the challenges:
Week One, Mon Nov 3: Post a picture of something you are thankful for
Week Two, Mon Nov 10: Write a letter, text, or call someone you are thankful for
Week Three, Mon Nov 17: Perform a simple act of kindness
Week Four, Mon Nov 24: Give a hug to everyone you are thankful for
That’s it! It really is this simple to feel more grateful each and every day, but sometimes we all need a little support to get there. That’s where your Brain Buddies come in! Visit the Gray Matters Facebook page throughout the month and leave a comment, photo or even a video on our wall letting us know how the exercises are going and the benefits you’re receiving. You’ll be doing great things for your own health and encouraging others at the same time! Have questions? Need support? Contact me here.
I am often asked “How do you do it?”
I just do.
You see, I don’t even have to ask why I do what I do. When you’re doing it, it is part of your daily life, it just happens. Others will always want to know how, and it’s difficult to explain. It’s natural, a part of me. I didn’t train for this, I didn’t plan to begin a non-profit, to help support those in need, to bring them comfort. The cause found me.
If you are reading my blog for the first time, you might be wondering what is ‘it’? Sometimes I ask myself that very question. The ‘it’ that people question is never the same for two people, or it could be different day to day. For instance, recently it was being with a Brain Buddie and her family as she is preparing to leave this life. She didn’t plan this. Her family didn’t plan this! The ‘it’ was walking into a home filled with heartache but knowing that even if for just a moment If I can share FAITH, HOPE or LOVE then ‘it’ is being accomplished. I pull up to the house praying for guidance on my journey today. I walked in to see my friend in her hospice bed. She was receiving meds so I was able to spend a few minutes with her family.
My ‘it’ was whispering in the ear of my friend what an amazing champ she has been throughout her fight with this brain tumor. I shared how much I love her and more. It was making sure her family knows they are loved and that I am hurting with them. No silly words, nothing from a script, just the real me, a friend to the end!
A friend loves at all times. Although I hate what this disease has done, her memory will not be stolen by the brain tumor. I told her I will keep her story alive and tell other buddies she beat the odds! She is our champ. It was a tough day but this is what I am called to do. This is what ‘it’ is. (this was written Tuesday
I love my brain buddies.
Sixteen years ago my life took a completely different turn. On August 12, 1998 I was diagnosed with a baseball size mass. On this day, September 2, 1998, I had it removed, and learned it was a grade 3 Anaplastic Oligodendroglioma. Between then and 2007, I have had 5 surgeries. Before the tumor, I worked as a banking relationship manager. It’s funny how life-changing events can alter your path. I have found support more than statistics is vital to helping share hope or encouragement.
In 2001 I sent my first gift package to a fellow brain tumor patient. That was the beginning of Gray Matters Foundation. You can read my entire story here.
Now here I am, sixteen years later, and Gray Matters and I are still going strong. It’s my ‘Sweet 16’, as my husband has dubbed this year, and we are going to have a celebration. On Saturday, September 20 at 5pm we will be having a party at the Dirty Pelican in Glendale, and will feature delicious food and there will be many baskets and other items raffled, and each will be in honor of one of the many Brain Buddies I have met over the years. We also will have music provided by the 80’s rock band Sluggo, and that will be a great finale to the evening. The whole evening is going to rock! You can get more information and RSVP right here.
I’ve met so many people along the way who have been affected by brain tumors, either directly or indirectly, and on this night we will celebrate and honor everyone. I am so grateful to be able to offer support to all of our Brain Buddies, I hope if you are in the Phoenix area you are able to come out on September 20 and join us. Let’s show everyone at The Dirty Pelican that night that brain tumors stink, that’s what we think!
Time erases no memories. 22 years ago I sat with my grandma while she took her last breath. Harsh to say but rather peaceful considering my personal belief is she is in heaven now. The 9 weeks leading up to that evening were such a whirl wind. I know listening to me tell you how I miss my then 62 year old grandma to some hardly compares to the loss when they are dealing with the loss of a spouse or a child or a dear friend for that matter. I am not here on this blog to create a RATING SCALE of who’s pain is better or worse. LOSS SUCKS and everyone experiences it differently and in their own way! At the time of her death I was 22 with a 2 & 3 year old my life was so all over the board. I needed her and she was dying I was devastated . Her death was my first experience watching, holding the hand of a loved one dying from a brain tumor. For that matter it was the first person I had been with EVER while they were dying / died .( never dreaming I would be with countless holding their hands in years to come) All I knew was this stupid abbreviated 3 letter word GBM was killing my grandma and it did so in 9 wks after having her brain surgery. Sparing you all those details the loss is real. 22 years she is missed but will never be forgotten. My heart will forever have a space that contains the love we shared. Over time the pain has softened and as many say ” LIFE GOES ON”. In my life it has gone on but I do so with keeping her memory alive. I am not stuck in sadness but I am sad for the things I didn’t get to enjoy with her. I realized some years back I can do things to keep her memory alive or let that die also. So to me LIFE WINS and when I tell stories of who she was, sharing her LIFE the brain tumor looses. You see the tumor died when she did. Her memory lives on as long as we keep telling her story and the tumor part is so small in compared to all the other goodness. If she were here she would be 84 in a few weeks now that’s crazy. When I am with family I’m usually the one who brings her name up and then we share stories and we giggle . The best are the ones that make you smile or even tear. ( Now of course their are jokesters in every family) . I have to slap my dad and my uncle on behalf of my GMA a heavenly one of course . They tend to get to funny and start sharing the TMI stuff UGH my grandma If she could hear them she would say their names so STERN when they acted funny like that. My family , cousins and sibling who will remain nameless but who are reading this I can see you smiling and you know exactly what I am talking about when it comes to dad and Uncle. OH and her food she made lot’s of yummie stuff but mmmm. the most noted was what she made at work ,she was a baker. HER DONUTS! and everytime I smell one I think of her. MMMM the yummie WINCHELL donuts she baked. ONE PROBLEM ( a minute on the lips has caused a lifetime of exercising for these HIPS!) trust me those donuts were dangerous on the girls in our family LOL. SO we share about Grandam because we love, because she is important. Many people don’t know what to say to friends that loose a love one. Maybe not right away but we do like to share memories. It’s ok to talk about those we miss and love even though they are gone. It’s when you don’t talk about them that it hurts us. Tonight 22 years later I remember it like it was yesterday. The crazy part, the end of her journey in this life was all part of what came to be the beginning of what I was called to do today . The creation of GRAY MATTERS FOUNDATION. You just never know what comes of life’s journey and if you listen closely and you handle it with care . It all works out. I sure didn’t see this coming. Back then and now she was and is my first & FOREVER #ifonlyforone
Sometimes, If Only For One can be a choice. Making one little choice can greatly alter your course, and you may not even realize it.
As many of you know my birthday was on July 7th and my mother’s is the 8th. I wouldn’t see Mom on her birthday, so I asked her to meet me for ice-cream on my birthday (it was a spur of the moment plan but I thought it would be a nice treat and just the two of us). I also had to take care of a payment for a credit card that was due. I figured I would pay it online rather than dropping it off because I needed to get to my date with Mom.
I made the call and the payment. At the end the auto system said “if you are processing this after 5:00pm it won’t post for two days” because it was considered after hours. It was a balance of $10.00 and it would have a $25.00 late fee. I decided to go in and make the payoff in-store and avoid a $25 fee for a $10 final balance. I decided to enjoy my time with my mom first and stop by the store after to pay the $10.00.
When I made it to the store, I asked the girl at the register if the payment had been made. She was new to the job and didn’t know so I went to customer service. They said an in-store payment is processed the same day because it’s local. If you pay online or on the phone it’s back east so it is considered late.
As I was leaving the store, the cashier saw me at the door and asked about the answer to my question. She felt bad for not being able to tell me. I told her, and said no worries. I explained there are many things to get upset about; life is too short you just never know what can happen. This was not an issue.
Well, that being said, I was driving home and it’s about 15 minutes away.
Earlier when I phoned to make my payment, the automated message told me the processing time. This prompted when I chose to go by the store to pay. I made a choice to pay after ice cream. I could have gotten upset and been a jerk to the cashier, but made one little choice to keep Peace.
25 -30 minutes earlier, on the very street I would be traveling on, a car ran a red light. It hit a car in the lane I would have been in. They were re-directing traffic and the way I would have been traveling if I had been returning from my ice cream date. I could have been the one, the one who was hit.
When I talk about IF ONLY FOR ONE it can be in all we do. One choice can cause a chain of reactions, or a change of ACTIONS. I know one thing for sure, by taking the less stress and lighter look at situations, tonight I was the one who was spared.